Terms of Relationship:
This post has been a long time in the making and is just kind of an outline of what I would expect from a (romantic) relationship. It is a hypothetical document and is not directed at any person in particular. It is not a legal document (though that is how I am choosing to format it), think of it more as a social contract. Parts of it are negotiable and it is subject to change as I do.
Basically what I want from a relationship is a super best friend- someone to hang out with, talk/ complain about my life with, and with whom I can discuss politics and other sensitive topics like religion and philosophy. I also want someone with whom I can talk about some of the things I never really talk about (not even to my diary blog). I am looking for someone who is loyal, smart, and kind (physical stuff to be covered in next paragraph). The relationship should have a solid base of trust, respect and communication.
I do not really have any predetermined physical characteristics I look for. As far as physical acts within the relationship. I’m not at all interested in any sort of sexual activity and do not foresee any intereset in such activities for months or years so all of that is off the table (this can be re-negotiated at a later date but that is where I stand at rthe inception of the relationship). Activities that I am interested in include: hand holding cuddling, hugs, leaning on one another and other such similar gestures. Also kissing is something that i do not entirely understand, but after a reasonable amount of time I am not opposed to giving it a try.
Regarding the Check
I will not pay every time, nor will I allow you to do so. I propose either splitting the check every time, or taking turns paying. If you have other suggestions I will gladly take them into consideration and this is something we would need to have agreed upon in advance.
Regarding Appearance, Friends and Activities
Neither party has much or any more say in decisions surrounding the appearance, friendships or activities of the opposite party unless explicitly consulted on the matter. Except in cases of cheating or alleged cheating in which circumstance there shall be a discussion between the two parties regarding the incident and what to do regarding it.
Termination of the Rrelationship
The relationship can be terminated by either party at any time. The termination should be as friendly as possible and hopefully will result in a circumstance where the two parties can remain friends. Some effort should be made to explain the cause(s) of termination and some effort should be made to avoid the cliche lines such as “It isn’t you. It’s me”